Support Not Separation


Support Not Separation (SNS) is a coalition of organisations and individuals to end the unwarranted and damaging separation of children from their mother or other primary carer.  Payday is a member organisation of this coalition.

We campaign with mothers, and men supporting their partners, against Social Services taking away their children because of poverty, racism and sexism. In 2006, Payday joined Give Us Back Our Children initiated by the Global Women's Strike in Philadelphia (now part of SNS). It has since expanded in others US cities. In London, we join the monthly picket in front of family court and are especially opposing the men's lobby who support violent fathers using the junk theory of 'parental alienation'.

See Support Not Separation’s blog here.

Support Not Separation picket
Michael Kalmanovitz speaks against violent men

Children don’t need violent fathers

7 July 2020

Michael Kalmanovitz, Payday men’s network

Most family court cases involve domestic violence (70-90%), overwhelmingly against women. As a father, a former social worker and children’s home worker, I am horrified at the denial of domestic violence by the fathers’ lobby, and the harmful influence they have had over the family courts.

Protest against Families Need Fathers

No to Families Need Fathers

1 October 2017

By Payday & Legal Action for Women

In October 2017, we joined the protest organised by Legal Action for Women against the participation of the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service (CAFCASS) and the National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) at the Conference of Families Need Fathers (FNF).

DHS Give Us Back Our Children

1 April 2011

By Payday & Every Mother is a Working Mother Network

In 2010, Payday contributed to the production of a video exposing the unfair treatment of mothers by the US Department of Human Services (DHS), who very often has taken their children away because they were poor.